4 PARENTING STYLES AND THEIR EFFECTS ON CHILDREN (2024)

 

When I had my first child, I always asked myself, how do I go about raising him?

Which parenting style will be the best to adopt so I can raise my child to become the best of himself when he grows up?

These questions gave me a lot of sleepless nights that led me to do a few types of research and consultations, which I will lay out here in this article, so you don't also go through the same struggles I went through to find the perfect parenting style to raise your child.

In this article, we will be going through all the parenting styles and the various effects they may have on your children when they grow up so you know which will be best for you.

The first type of parenting style we will look at is the Authoritarian style of parenting.

 

The authoritarian style of parenting

This is a style of parenting in which parents are highly stern with their children and expect them to follow their rules without question.

If the child does not follow the instructions set by these parents, they will be severely punished.

These parents are less attentive to their children's needs. This isn't to say that these parents don't care about their children. 

The majority of these parents believe that raising their children in this manner will benefit them in the future and help them fit into society.

 

Advantages Of Authoritarian Parenting Style

Though many feel this parenting style is terrible due to the high level of strictness from the parents, it has some good sides.

1. Because they have been taught to heed instructions their whole lives, the children of these parents are often well behaved in society and always follow the law.
As a result, it's difficult to see such children ever getting into trouble with the authorities, whether at school or elsewhere.

2. Another good benefit that kids who go through the authoritarian parenting style get is that these kids become very good at accomplishing all their set goals.
All of their lives, they have been trained to follow instructions and are to carry all the laid down instructions till they see it through till the end.

    Safety is assured.
The third benefit of authoritarian parenting is guaranteed the child's safety, and the youngster understands that disobeying safety advice would result in negative repercussions.

For example, if he is told not to leave where he is and to stay put for his own protection, he will not question it.

Disadvantages Of Authoritarian Parenting Style

1. One of the most prevalent outcomes of authoritarian parenting is the development of fear in the child.

Because they are afraid of being reprimanded or punished, many youngsters find it extremely difficult to express themselves openly. Even as adults, they are so scared due to their upbringing.

These kids have a hard time making judgments for themselves later in life because they are cautious.

Every life decision they make is made to make their parents happy, even if it makes them miserable or unhappy.

2. Another disadvantage of the authoritarian parenting style is that the children get angry quickly when he grows up to be an adult.
They tend to explode and vent their anger at the slightest provocation when they grow up.

3. These youngsters are typically shy and clumsy, and they have a hard time socializing and making their own judgments.

Making new friends becomes difficult for them, and they prefer to spend their time indoors alone. This could be due to the terror instilled in them since childhood when they were raised.

Permissive Parenting Style

This parenting approach allows children to make whatever decisions they choose with the full support of their parents.

The majority of permissive parents regard their children more like friends than children.

Even if there are some established norms in these households, parents rarely discipline their children when they do something wrong.

Is this, however, the most effective parenting approach to adopt?

Let's find out by examining the benefits and drawbacks.

Advantages of permissive parenting.

1. The first benefit of a permissive parenting style is that the child has a high level of self-esteem.

Because the youngster has complete freedom to do anything he wants without fear of being chastised by his parents, the child develops a great deal of courage or, in other words, self-esteem.

 2. The second advantage of this parenting method is that it allows for creativity. That is to say, children who grow up with this sort of parenting become extremely creative because they have complete freedom to do whatever they want.

They get the opportunity to try out various activities on their own and rapidly determine which carrier is ideal for them.

Disadvantages of Permissive Parenting Style

1. There is a severe lack of discipline among the children. When children grow up with this style of upbringing, they often struggle to follow the rules and restrictions imposed on them at school or at work.

The majority of them also find it impossible to follow the country's laws in which they find themselves, resulting in frequent problems.

2. When children are raised in a permissive parenting style, they are more likely to become bullies in school or at work as they grow older.

When they injure individuals physically and emotionally, they become careless or don't know when to stop. 

3. Lower motivation
Because there is no structured guidance for the child, the parents offer the youngster complete freedom to do whatever he feels and wants, which may result in the child receiving little or no motivation from the parents when they make some achievements.

After a few failures, these children believe that no one cares about their achievements or losses and give up on life.

Authoritative Parenting Style

Many parenting experts endorse this parenting method because of the various benefits it provides compared to its drawbacks.
This may sound similar to the first type of parenting we examined, but there is a difference.

Authoritative parents are often harsh with their children, yet they are also incredibly affectionate. These parents are flexible and allow their children some freedom and give them all the support they could wish for, but only up to a certain point when, if the child violates the restrictions set for him, he is subjected to a reasonable penalty to ensure that he does not do so again in the future.

Almost everything the kid does is restricted. For example, the child has the freedom to watch television, but only for a certain amount of time.

He also gets the freedom to play whenever he wants, but he must assist in putting all of his toys away when he is finished.

Here is one disadvantage of this type of parenting style.

Disadvantages of Authoritative parenting.

1. Your kids might one day rebel against you because of the authoritarian style of parenting.

Benefits of Authoritative style of parenting.

1. Children raised in authoritative homes develop the ability to persevere in the face of adversity when things don't go their way.
They persist in pursuing their passion until they achieve success.
These children also have the freedom to express themselves wherever they are.

2.   When these children grow up to be adults, they comprehend and accept the rules and regulations taught to them, and they take responsibility for their actions when they breach the law.
These children grow up to be decent citizens who show respect to everyone they meet.

3.   They become more successful.
Many studies have indicated that children raised with an authoritative parenting style are more successful later in life.

This is because these kids are always upbeat and have a good outlook on life, which makes them motivated to master new skills.

Neglectful parenting style




As the name implies, these parents are irresponsible and unconcerned about their children.

Parents are more concerned with matters other than their children.
Some people are more concerned with their business than with their children.

Others go about their lives, unconcerned about their children's presence.
The majority of these children grow up to be lonely and depressed.

Even though these children have complete freedom to do anything they want, they become unhappy because they do not receive adequate attention from their parents.

Advantages of Neglectful parenting

1. One benefit of neglecting parenting is that children are given ample room and freedom to explore new things, which may lead to her discovering their life's purpose or deciding on a career path when she is older.

2. Because the children are frequently left alone, they are forced to learn how to live independently and provide for themselves without relying on others.

Disadvantages of Neglectful parenting style

     1. One significant disadvantage is that the child grows up without any emotional ties to their parents.
Since the parent failed to establish that relationship from the start, the children get unconcerned about their parents later on.

2. Socialization becomes tough for these children.
Children's socialization begins in the home. From their interactions with their parents, children learn how to socialize.

However, because of their neglecting parents, these children would find it extremely difficult to communicate with others, as children learn via practice and observation.

3. Depression
Many of these children will grow up to be gloomy and miserable.
They feel worthless and unwanted, harming their mental health, leading to depression, substance misuse, and even suicide.