Non strict parents, good or bad?

Non strict parents, is that really good or bad for the child? Everybody wants to raise their kids to grow up and become responsible parents in the future and contribute positively to society. 

The only problem is what type of parent is the best to make this dream a reality. 

There are, in fact, four different parenting styles that most parents use in raising their kids: permissive, authoritarian, authoritative, and neglectful parenting.

All the listed parenting styles have their advantages and disadvantages, which I have already written on and can be found here.

In today's article, we will discuss who a non strict parent is and look at the dangers associated with this type of parenting plus the advantages.

Is it a form of parenting that must be encouraged?

Who is a non strict parent?

Non strict parents, who are sometimes also referred to as free-range parents, don't actually care about how their kids choose to live their lives, and they are more like a friend to the child.

Though some of these parents have a say in the actions of their kids, most of them just turn a blind eye to their efforts.

Characters of non strict parents.

Non strict parenting has been common for some time now and when that type of parenting became popular is still unknown to us. Many parents practice this kind of parenting, but only a few know if what they are doing is the non strict type of parenting or not.

For this reason, I have listed below the vital signs which will indicate to you whether the style of parenting you are giving your child falls under non strict parenting or not.

Kids have all privacy;

Non strict parents give their kids a lot of privacy, and they don't worry about how their kids spend their time in solitude. 

Whatever they spend their time doing on their computers or smartphones does not concern them and is up to them.

Since there are no rules, they think they should decide on their actions.

No rules;

 Parents who are not strict with their children don't usually set down strict rules, and they feel it is suitable for the child to make his own decisions whiles learning from them. Though there are basic rules at home like brushing their teeth every day and eating breakfast in the morning, they don't overdo it.

Most of these parents argue setting too many strict rules ruins the fun of being a parent.

Advantages of Non Strict Parents

Good parent-child relationship;

Since the parent is not strict with the child in this type of parenting, the child sees the parent as a friend, which strengthens their relationship. The child finds it much easier to approach the parent with any problem he has at school or with his social life without fearing that the parent might punish or scold them if the situation turns out to be too bad.

Kids don't turn out to become rebellious;

Numerous studies have pointed out that children with strict parenting backgrounds grow up to become more aggressive and rebellious towards their parents, neighbors in the community, and the authority. 

People from homes without strict rules and control hardly end up being aggressive. 

No traits of depression;

What leads to depression is a lot to mention, but kids from strict homes are more likely to have depression episodes in their lives at some point in time.

This is because when you are under strict control for a long time, and you are forbidden to be part of everyday things all your friends are doing, you will definitely feel alone and sad, leading to depression where you might even think you are worthless.

Disadvantages of Non Strict Parents

Here are a few disadvantages of kids with non strict parents;

Kids end up making grave mistakes; 

Since the parent isn't strict with the child and leaves them to do whatever they please, the child might end up doing something terribly wrong, which is okay, and see nothing bad about it.

One good example is the child might see shoplifting as having fun or taking out your car and going for joyrides under the required age to drive and might end up at the wrong side of the law.

Children turn out to be disrespectful;

Another reason not being strict on your child can be really bad is that your child becomes very disrespectful. Since they see their parents as co-equals or friends, they forget that they can't interact with everybody just like they do with their parents and end up being rude to people and their teachers without seeing anything wrong.

Prone to substance abuse;

Yes, being too soft on your kids can lead them to be prone to substance abuse.

Since there are no guidelines to help show your kids the right way of society, they are likely to end up as drug addicts through their peers or what they see online.

There are countless substance abuse cases where most offenders are from homes where there isn't any form of monitoring on how they spend their time and who they spend their time with.

This is one good reason why it is crucial to have some form of guidelines for the kids.

Bad academic performance;

True indeed; kids will be more focused on playing than taking their academic work seriously. 

This will definitely affect their academics and other important school activities, leading to bad grades.