It is difficult to experience that gross disrespect without knowing how to make your kid stop. Luckily in today’s discussion, we will be looking at the best way to discipline a child who talks back without hurting his feelings.
This attitude of children is not strange because I have come across many parents who, upon discussion, told me how their kids are like little attorneys where you don’t ask them to do something as a parent, and they wouldn't find an excuse or an answer for you.
With my experience as a parent and extensive research, I will be providing you with all the answers you need in other to put your child back on the right path.
But before we look at how to discipline a child who talks back, let us look at why people talk back in general.
Looking at the whys will help you more as a parent to know what you are doing wrong.
Why do people talk back?
1. To further understand;
Well, one reason why people and obviously your child will talk back is to be able to understand you more.
Maybe you are asking him to do something, and he doesn't understand why you needed that to be done by him; he definitely will want to know why by asking you.
2. Urge
At times, we get talked back to because of how we present the issues to our kids. If you always have the habit of asking your kids to do something in the form of an order, it is likely that soon, your child will have the urge to talk back because not everybody can shut up and be controlled at all times, and children are no exception.
That is to say, any form of dictatorial parenting style is a recipe for talk-backs.
Since we are now familiar with what pushes your child to talk back at you, I think we can continue with the best possible ways a parent can discipline his child to prevent him from talking back at him in the future.
How to discipline a child who talks back.
1. Stay calm;
Though you might feel offended when your child talks back, always remember to stay calm and not be emotional.
I say this because talking back after your child has talked back at you will only make things worse.
Not reacting when they do back talk doesn't mean you are a weak parent.
Address them in a calm voice and let them understand that you know how they feel, but they need to be relaxed before you can both sit down and chat about solving the issues.
2. Give extra chores;
Another way of disciplining your child when they backtalk is by giving them chores to correct them.
This is one of the most effective ways I deal with my kids, who have the habit of back-talking.
Giving out a chore as your child back talks doesn't make you a bad parent; instead, it indicates that you are a responsible parent ready to put your child back on the right track.
This will also teach your child to know the effects of his actions, making him not repeat that behavior in the future.
3. Ground them;
I know this might not be a good option for some parents for some reasons, but I think it is okay from my perspective.
Asking them to go to their rooms after noticing them talking back at you will let them have enough time to reflect on their actions and be better next time.
4. Don’t give a reply;
When my kids talk back at me, sometimes, I don’t give them what they want, which is to provide them with a reply.
It is essential to know that it isn't on all occasions that you shouldn't give a reply when your kids talk back at you but only do it when you see that they are in the wrong.
You remain silent and let them think through their actions even when they leave you in anger.
Their guilt alone will be a form of punishment for them without you taking any physical action to discipline them.
Conclusion;
Though I have listed some tips to use in disciplining children who backtalk, I think the best way to handle that situation is to talk about it.
Explaining why it is wrong to talk back to parents to the kids will let them understand why it is a bad act and make them more responsible for their actions in the future.
I hope this helps, and thanks for reading.
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