They don't really know how to go about it, but in this article today, that is precisely what we would be tackling.
Kids are kids and don't know what they are doing; they do things at times without having any bad intentions for their actions, but in reality, that isn't a good thing to do.
I don't blame them for these actions because, at their age, they don't know good from evil, and without us, the parents pointing that out to them, they will still continue with that.
I remember I had an issue with my child before when he was about four years old. He was playing with his toys when he did something which wasn't right, and I scolded him.
And what I heard him say was, "You are not my friend again." yes, I play with him a lot, so that's how he refers to me sometimes. Continuing, I didn't like what came out of his mouth, so I had to quickly let him know that what he said was a mean thing to say, and I left him in his room alone.
Guess what, it worked!
Though he was puzzled, he got the message that what he said was wrong, and the action I took by leaving him will always remind him that being mean will only leave him isolated and all alone.
This is just one of the many other ways you can handle the situation if your child is always being mean to you.
Below are some other great tips on what to do when your child becomes very mean to you.
These tips have been tried and tested by a lot of parents, so you don't have any reason to doubt whether they will work or not.
Quickly, let's dive into the solutions to solving this problem drastically.
What to do when your child is mean to you.
1. Always show your love;
When your child is mean to you, he might not know whether what he is doing is good or bad, so you getting angry at him wouldn't solve the problem.
First, let him know what he has done is not the best.
Let him know that even though he was mean to you, you still love him no matter what.
This will make him think twice when next he plans to do something similar again.
2. Be firm;
You are the parent, not a child.
Be firm and let your child know you wouldn't tolerate him being mean to you.
Let him know the next time he repeats that, there will be severe consequences.
Don't be afraid to ground him if he still disobeys and continues being mean to you.
Take away his phone or toys; anything you think if you prevent him from having access to will make him think about his actions and change for the better.
Doing this doesn't make you a hateful or bad mom. What you are doing is instead to straighten him up to become a better person for society as a whole.
3. Be a good role model;
It is a fact that children mirror everything they see their parents doing, and they might be learning to be mean from you without you having an idea about it.
If you are always mean to your friends, in-laws, or immediate family in front of your child, they will also pick up that habit of thinking it is a good thing to do.
Always avoid laughing at people or passing unnecessary sarcastic comments.
4. Explain how you feel
Numerous researches point to the fact that when you talk about how you feel to a child, they put themselves in that position to know how that feels.
So let him know how bad you are hurt whenever he becomes mean to you.
For example, if he says or does something mean to you, tell him you are very sad because of what he said.
5. Give a short and direct answer;
When your child is mean to you, another reasonable way to go about it is to respond without going around the bush.
Inform him that you understand that he is upset with you, but being mean will in no way help solve the problem.
All these tips I have listed above have proven to work a lot of times, and I am a hundred percent sure they will not fail you.
Thanks for reading, and be sure you look through other great articles below to help you raise a great and responsible child.
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