6 Signs you’re doing the parenting wrongly.

As a parent, I sometimes wonder whether am doing the parenting job right or my style of parenting sucks.

I know many parents also ask themselves this question once in a while too because most of us don't really understand what we are doing.

And since there are no manuals out there for us to use, it makes things worse.

What is scarier about this is that, if we go wrong with our type of parenting, it could have a drastic impact on the child's life even when he grows up so it is very crucial we get it right from the start. We only have one chance at this. 

The sole purpose of this write-up is to help parents to identify what they are doing wrong and what they can do to correct their mistakes before it becomes too late.

Signs of bad parenting.

1. Reprimanding a child in front of others.

How do you discipline your child when you are among people? If you are the type of parent who scolds your child when in public, you are doing more harm than good to the child.

The humiliation of being publicly punished may cause him to lose confidence and become timid anytime he sees himself in public.

2. Not showing affection;

The little things count.

If you don't show affection to your child though you love him and want nothing but the best for him, he will only be getting a different message.

Kids are kids and will find things difficult to understand if we are not direct with them. If you want to show love to your child, let your action speak.

Tell them you love and appreciate them, and don't be shy to show your love by hugging them too. 

If there is no direct display of affection from the parent, children will feel estranged from them, which can have many bad impacts on the child's life.

3. Not establishing rules;

Rules and regulations are what guides us all to do the right thing and it is also very important in a child's life.

If you are the type of parent where you don't have rules to guide your kids and allow them to do whatever they please, you are doing more harm than good. 

Since there are no consequences to any action they take, they will think they can do anything also in the outside world and get away with it and this may lead them into grave trouble which might ruin their lives.

4. Abuse;

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No one, including your child, should be subjected to abuse, whether it is physical or emotional.

The long-term impacts of such abuse on children might include low self-esteem, fear, and depression.

5. Lack of respect for your child

Yes, children also need the same respect we desire from others, know that you are being a bad parent.

It is essential to respect your child's decisions, feelings, or choices as a parent.

This is important because it helps build confidence in your child which will help him become a better person in society in the future.

6. Over pampering;

Over pampering your child isn't in any way helping them. What you are doing instead is ruining his life.

Whenever the pampering stops, there will be trouble at home and training your child like that wouldn't help him in any way.

Mostly to these kids, the world revolves around them and their wish must always be fufilled.

When kids grow up with the mentality of everything must be done for them, it becomes a problem, they will find it hard to cater for themselves and will always be dependent.