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Growing up, I've had friends I hung out with, and for some, I've seen their mothers getting really angry at them at certain times, scolding them with the sentence," you're such a spoilt child".
At that tender age, I didn't know what that was, but I made a solemn promise to myself that I would be a better parent for my kids and not allow them to become spoilt, just like my friends.
So far, I can say that I am doing really well with taking care of my young one.
In this article, I will be sharing some of the signs to look out for to help you know if your child is becoming spoilt or not.
Please note that all the information the article shares is based on thorough research and consultations.
Quickly, let's dive into the purpose of this write-up," signs you're raising a spoilt child".
However, it will also be vital that we look at some questions frequently asked relating to today's discussion topic.
Who is a spoilt child?
This is to say, a child may become spoilt has a lot to do with the parent, and it is an upbringing issue.
What happens if a child is spoilt?
There are a lot of adverse effects being a spoilt child can have on a child, but we will be looking a just a few;
1. Dependency;
Children who have been spoilt will find it very difficult to do anything on their own without the help of others. Since they are bossy and feel like their kings, they grow up and end up suffering because no one will be willing to serve them.
The findings of a study conducted by researchers Connie Dawson and David J. Bredehoft on college-aged young adults have concluded that children who have been spoilt believe that their happiness depends on others and not on themselves.
2. Disrespectfulness;
One of the most prevalent side effects of a spoiled youngster is the regular display of rude disrespect. They do not speak to people respectfully and will ignore when their attention is raised to the issue because they are given everything they want and treated like royalty.
3. Irresponsibility;
As one might anticipate, a spoiled child will be uninterested in helping out at home or wherever he may find himself.
And because their parents idolize them and give them everything they want, they struggle to take on their own responsibilities.
These children grow up to be lazy due to their lack of good upbringing and training, with the majority of them becoming drunkards, gamblers, or worse.
4. Loneliness;
Who will want to hang out with a spoilt child as a friend? The obvious answer is no one. Because of the self-centered characteristics a spoilt child poses, no child will want to be friends with him. His bossiness and greed will make it difficult for anyone to want to be close with him.
Because of these reasons, spoilt children become lonely and unhappy, with many despising themselves.
Signs of a spoilt child
1. Doesn't share;
If your child doesn't share her belongings with others but always doesn't think twice before accepting the belongings of others, that could be one great sign for you to be worried about her.
Most children are always happy to help and share, and it is something normal that comes to them, so if your child doesn't like sharing but is always looking to receive, she probably is a spoilt child.
2. They are never satisfied;
You can buy her all the toys in the world, but she will never be satisfied with what she has. And most of all, they do not show gratitude even if you try to please them by buying the following things they are demanding for.
It is also common to see these kids also be full of greed.
3. They don't take no for an answer;
Another sign of a spoilt child is that they want their will to be done by hook or crook and do not care if you can do their bidding.
For instance, if she says she wants a new toy but already has a lot of toys, she wouldn't be willing to hear anything you say until you agree to buy that toy for her.
4. Disregards rules;
Since your child mostly gives orders around, she wouldn't like to take orders from anyone because she sees herself as the only authority figure.
If nothing is done about this behavior early, it will surely ruin the child's life when she grows up into an adult because she will be unwilling to respect the laws of the society in which she will see herself.
5. They must be begged to do their duties;
Does your child have to always be begged or bribed before they do anything assigned to them? If your child does this, she is a spoilt child and needs to change as soon as possible.
6. They are not polite;
Does your child always say "please" when asking for a favor? Or does she say "thank you" when given help? Your child is likely spoilt if your answer is no to these two questions.
7. They hate to lose;
Spoilt children don't like to lose in anything they do; they hate the idea of losing, and most of them are fond of doing anything possible to win, even if cheating is an option for them.
8. They don't help;
Another sign you can notice if your child is spoilt is her ability to help. Children, by default, love to help out if they see someone in need of help, so if your child doesn't support you even when asked politely, she is likely full of herself.
9. They are aggressive;
When a spoilt child becomes angry, it is difficult to control them; they become very aggressive, posing a danger to themselves or anyone around them.
If you notice this character in your child, she may need urgent help.
10. They ignore you;
Try asking a spoilt child something when she is annoyed and see if she will respond to you. It is like you don't exist to them anymore.
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